This morning i received a text from my very close guy friend...
That girl I told you I was seeing who disappeared on me really pissed me off last night. We ended things when she told me that she felt no spark with me, even though I was "amazing with how I treated her".... Well that's great and all but then she posts this stupid picture (see below) on Facebook last night!!!!! WHAT IS THAT!!!!!
My poor friend, I felt really bad for him. But i was dying laughing, because this truly is typical girl behavior, and that's exactly what I said to him. I said, Yup, typical girl, doesn't surprise me one bit. He seemed confused, so I tried to break it down for him as simply as possible for him. Although it could be argued to be a bit more complicated than this, here's the short version:
MOST girls dream of:
Finding a bad boy
Chasing him for a little bit
Changing/fixing/saving him
Then living happily ever after together as his Princess
If the guy is too nice from day 1:
There is sadly just no "Spark"
He isn't the one
She wants it to work but it just doesn't feel "right"
She isn't ready for a serious relationship
She isn't over her ex
She needs time to be single
She needs to work on herself
The Sad, Sad Reality for us ladies:
No Bad Boy can be "Fixed"
A guy doesnt have to be mysterious (aka sketchy) to be hot
Guys aren't puppies, they don't grow up & change, they are already adults
If a guy treats you one way from day 1, it will probably be that same way for a long time
We aren't in a rodeo, stop trying to lasso a man, you'll be chasing him forever
If you aren't a princess now, what is he going to wake up one day and decide NOW today is the day that you are a princess? Absolutely not.
You don't REALLY want to marry a bad boy, do you?
Ladies - I wish I could tell you all (including me) to WAKE THE HECK UP!!!!! What are we doing? Why can't we feel a spark with the right guys? Why do we feel the need to fix all the wrong ones? So many of my wonderful quality smart attractive nice male friends can't find a girl to date, meanwhile all of my beautiful smart successful female friends are off chasing these LOSERS!
It's really heart breaking but I find that even I have done this many many times, so it seems as though that's our nature today... I have dated guys who wine and dine me till I am blue in the face, who do anything I ask even without me having to ask, buy me flowers for absolutely no reason however they are never "the one." Then I have dated the guys who steal my money, are completely sketchy, can't get their own life on track, and lie, cheat, or steal, but for some reason, they are more "passionate" or "attractive" for some reason.... seriously I have to laugh.... because what are we doing!?!?!? I can't foresee myself 80 years old sitting on a couch happy with the bad boy.... but we feel like we are settling with the good guy... it's sadly a lose lose situation gals... we need to get a grip!
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