Rule # 15: Love that which lets you love it.
She says: Even if you don’t gush like I do, I’m willing to bet you do get excited about certain things, in your own way. And I think a really good rule to live by is to only pursue that which allows you to be excited.
Here’s the thing: it’s easy to make decisions on what excites us, and that’s totally not a bad thing. But when you’re approaching school, career, guys, or, well, life, being excited is simply not enough. I’ve learned this year that really feeling happy and satisfied comes from finding a perfect fit because that excitement is mutual.
It’s a difficult rule to apply to dating, but when you do, I’m telling you, you will be SO much happier. So often, girls get so excited about guys (we’re delusional, we know) and the guys are just so “Whatever” about it. A good guy (or girl!) will not be “Whatever” about you — that person will be all about you. And, more important, they will let you be excited about them.
For example, look at this cute little kid.... he LOVES that little kitten.... notice the kitten running in the complete opposite direction. that kitten has no intentions of turning around at all. He's headed for the hills!
When it comes to dating, this is something people tend to have trouble with: finding someone you're really interested in, but making sure they feel the same way. I have decided to call this the ever so tragic one-sided love affair... you are absolutely head over heels infatuated with someone who just simply does not feel the same way.
Sometimes, this appears to be the case but is not... but more often this actually is the case and it's a matter of identifying it, and then deciding what to do from there. A person can accept the fact that he or she loves her significant other more than she is loved in return, but will we ever be satisfied with that? In Rachel's words, how does one get excited about being with someone who is not excited back?
Will the light ever come in in their heads? Will they ever realize what they have standing in front of them? Maybe their feelings will change? Likely not... if they don't have that attraction, then unless something drastically changes, the person can't force them self to feel something that is not there. And what if someday, the person gets that intense sense of attraction toward someone else instead, then what?
Call me a hopeless romantic but I have faith that in time I will meet someone who sweeps me off my feet, and that will be truly exciting for both of us.
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