Cinderella

So, I watched Cinderella tonight for the first time since elementary school.  Thank you Time Warner Cable.  The first thing I noticed was the fact that I have never watched the video with commercials before.  The second thing I noticed was that I haven't watched the movie since DVD's existed.

Cinderella was one of the first movies I ever owned.  Tonight I felt as though I was watching a movie through a telescope.  Watching the movie on my TV at home about 20 years after I saw it for the first time was the most bizarre thing I've done.  I felt like I wasn't actually watching the movie, it was as if i was watching myself watch the movie years ago.  It was so strange.  I felt things that i was "supposed to feel:" but not because i actually did, it was because I consciously felt as if i was supposed to.... REALLY WEIRD.... I remember being so engaged in the movie, when she was dancing with prince charming i felt as though I was the one dancing with prince charming.  Last night all I thought about when I was watching them dance was how crazy it is that technology changes so quickly.  The animation was so archaic and his face looked so brown, so non-realistic.  It was like watching a flip book or a moving drawing.  Hilarious...

Secrets Don't Make Friends

The trouble with secrets is that they are meant to be told... 

How do you find out about a secret?  Someone tells you.  Then what are you supposed to do with that burning desire to share the priceless news with someone else?  Tuck it away in your pocket like a lucky penny?  Sure, maybe that is what the teller intended you to do, but that's not realistic.  Often times the new holder of the information believes it seems harmless to share their newly found present with a close relative or friend... then down the line that comes back to bite them. 

So, when is it okay to divulge the information to "just one close friend" and when is it necessary to 100% pretend you never heard it?  That is a tough one.  I am sure the person who told you expects you to tell absolutely no one, but then again, they told you, so they did exactly what they are hoping you won't. They should know as soon as they open their mouth to you that it is only human nature for you to tell someone also, even if its just one more person, who will tell one more person who will tell one more person, that's just how it goes. 

It's like the game of telephone when you are a kid, seriously.  One kid tells another kid tells another kid, and all of a sudden the peanut butter sandwich is actually a Peter Pan Hammock!  It's crazy! Who would have thought the classroom was getting a Peter Pan Hammock!!!! How cool is that?  

It's tough, I try to be as good as I can when someone tells me something, but if it's something that truly should not be shared, it's probably best to just keep it to yourself, because no one, and I believe that no one can truly keep a burning secret to them self without telling anyone... 

Psychologists report that keeping secrets can lead to isolation and feeling of loneliness.  So maybe we all divulge secrets in order to maintain a bond with others.  When telling a secret and going through the motions, it is a way of saying "I just only you with this information" which causes a sense of closeness with that individual.  

In other situations, psychologies state that secrets are kept as a way of creating altruistic protection of others.  In other words, the friend sacrifices their own feelings of loneliness and isolation and keeps the secret, putting their friend before themselves.  This friend will hold that secret deep in their pocket as true protection of their friend or family member who told them. 

My opinion: maybe we should all have pets.... I tell my dog and my horse everything (yes, true story).  That way, at least they won't be able to tell another person your secrets. 

Feeling Loved

Every girl likes to feel loved.  That goes without saying.  Whether it's by friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, children, pets... we love to feel loved.  We NEED to feel loved.  Of course, men also desire the feeling of love, but for now, let's talk about the women...

Even though us women share that commonality, though, every woman is different in respect to how they want their significant other to show them love.

For example... some women drool over receiving flowers at work, while others absolutely hate it (very much like myself).

Some women like to be wine'd and dine'd, while others definitely prefer a home cooked meal.

Some (and i have to argue here MOST) women are more than smitten if their man chooses to sweep them away to an exotic island or country for a few days.  Other times, we prefer to snuggle up for a weekend in together, cell phones off and just spending quality time alone.

I have some friends (myself included) that sometimes worry or complain that their man forgets to do the little things, like taking us to dinner, or buying us flowers.  Does that mean they don't love us?  No, not so much. It simply means they are comfortable, doesn't mean they love you less.  Now, with that said, a gentle reminder can sometimes go a long way.  If your man knows you are feeling neglected, a kind hint can sometimes remind them that we need to feel that affection, but rest assured, if you take a closer look, sometimes they are already showing you in other ways.

For example, a message to a friend today from her man:  "I was thinking about things today, and I have to tell you, I really love when you do our dog's voice.  Daddy I want dinner, please please please pleeeeeeeease!!!!!!!!!"

She's thinking to herself: Really?  That's what you had to tell me?  Yes I am sure I sound ridiculous as I often walk around impersonating what the puppy would be saying if he could talk.  I can only imagine it's absurd. But you really just took the time to tell me how much you love it?

That text totally made her day.  Just him caring enough to sit and reflect and take the moment to share that thought with her, unannounced, that's just as good as stupid flowers on our desks ladies.  It does the same thing, it warms your heart and makes you feel loved.

I am not NOT in any way saying that a man shouldn't have to put in effort and can smooth talk his way through avoiding the other stuff.  TRUST ME when I say I like to go to dinner too - really I just love an excuse for good food and vino, but I also like romantic nights out, they are important!  All I am really saying is that often times, appreciating the small things can go a long way to realizing you truly are happy where you are, and so is he.